Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
Marriage
God has blessed me so much with an amazing husband. Right now i'm in the middle of cooking dinner for us. I say us because if I say him he will say "but your eating it too" but if you know me your know I wouldn't be cooking if it weren't for him. :)
My rotation in internal medicine has put me around a lot of elderly people and I have gotten a lot of thoughts about marriage from them.
A couple today came in. Been married 62 years. They were friends- you could see it. They were so sweet and talked quite a bit. She was a bit more shy, he was very analytical. They talked about helping each other " I don't know if you helped me more or I helped you more. It's the same no matter what. we are working together"
I saw woman yesterday been married for 70 years. She said the trick to marriage is not to insist on your own way. She said her marriage was a gift from God.
I had a guy a few days ago... was married for 58 years. She died two years ago and he still tears up about it. He told me "Don't ever take jobs where you don't see each other, and don't argue because you both bound to say something you don't mean.
I've had couples tell me that they are best friends, that they couldn't have made it without each other.
I've had couples argue and then laugh.
But i've also seen couples put one another down. I've seen them be cruel, and rude and ungrateful. I've seen them be together but not love each other. I've seen them be bitter and it is heart breaking.
But today I had a guy who has been married for 35 years. I talked to him about stewarding his health not just for him but for her too. We talked a long time about God and life and marriage and reading together (the patient brought up God first I just allowed him to talk- i say that because it's not "politically correct" for me to talk about God at work, but honestly-- I see God moving there). And I have to say I pray Paul and I make it to 35, 62, 70 years. But if we don't it won't be because we gave up- it will be because one of us dies. Divorce isn't an option and I explained to a guy today if you start with divorce as an option you won't feel the need to work it out when it gets hard you can walk away. But if you say "this has to work. failure isn't an option" I really believe you will make it work. How do I know?
I had a patient today who was in a car accident 12 years ago and it left him disabled. If you saw him your heart would be sad for him but he said to me that if your still breathing you can make anything work. I don't know if he knew the implications of that statement, and I agree with one condition- You can make anything work with God if you are still breathing.
God has blessed Paul and I so much and I'm so glad He is what our marriage is built on. All the other thoughts on marriage I've heard have been sweet but truly no advice replaces the Holy Spirit's guidance.
<3
I know that with Paul's help and God leading no matter what comes today, tomorrow, or how ever long God blesses us with life here on earth.
Songs of Solomon 5:16 says "this is my lover, this is my friend" So blessed God designed marriage for love and friendship. I'm married to my best friend and the most amazing blessing.
friends, please if you are married appreciate the gift it is, and if you aren't, please wait for lover and friend that God created for you. Don't settle. Praying for you and your marriages is either presently or in the future that they would be focused on God and led by the Spirit.
<3
My rotation in internal medicine has put me around a lot of elderly people and I have gotten a lot of thoughts about marriage from them.
A couple today came in. Been married 62 years. They were friends- you could see it. They were so sweet and talked quite a bit. She was a bit more shy, he was very analytical. They talked about helping each other " I don't know if you helped me more or I helped you more. It's the same no matter what. we are working together"
I saw woman yesterday been married for 70 years. She said the trick to marriage is not to insist on your own way. She said her marriage was a gift from God.
I had a guy a few days ago... was married for 58 years. She died two years ago and he still tears up about it. He told me "Don't ever take jobs where you don't see each other, and don't argue because you both bound to say something you don't mean.
I've had couples tell me that they are best friends, that they couldn't have made it without each other.
I've had couples argue and then laugh.
But i've also seen couples put one another down. I've seen them be cruel, and rude and ungrateful. I've seen them be together but not love each other. I've seen them be bitter and it is heart breaking.
But today I had a guy who has been married for 35 years. I talked to him about stewarding his health not just for him but for her too. We talked a long time about God and life and marriage and reading together (the patient brought up God first I just allowed him to talk- i say that because it's not "politically correct" for me to talk about God at work, but honestly-- I see God moving there). And I have to say I pray Paul and I make it to 35, 62, 70 years. But if we don't it won't be because we gave up- it will be because one of us dies. Divorce isn't an option and I explained to a guy today if you start with divorce as an option you won't feel the need to work it out when it gets hard you can walk away. But if you say "this has to work. failure isn't an option" I really believe you will make it work. How do I know?
I had a patient today who was in a car accident 12 years ago and it left him disabled. If you saw him your heart would be sad for him but he said to me that if your still breathing you can make anything work. I don't know if he knew the implications of that statement, and I agree with one condition- You can make anything work with God if you are still breathing.
God has blessed Paul and I so much and I'm so glad He is what our marriage is built on. All the other thoughts on marriage I've heard have been sweet but truly no advice replaces the Holy Spirit's guidance.
<3
I know that with Paul's help and God leading no matter what comes today, tomorrow, or how ever long God blesses us with life here on earth.
Songs of Solomon 5:16 says "this is my lover, this is my friend" So blessed God designed marriage for love and friendship. I'm married to my best friend and the most amazing blessing.
friends, please if you are married appreciate the gift it is, and if you aren't, please wait for lover and friend that God created for you. Don't settle. Praying for you and your marriages is either presently or in the future that they would be focused on God and led by the Spirit.
<3
Sunday, October 14, 2012
faith in the face of fear
Hi friends,
How are you?
I start hundreds of posts in my head for this blog, and half the time I don't write. Why? partly because there are things that I only have a few word comments on..nothing post worthy. What do I mean?
- So many people believe in God but they miss that Jesus is the way the truth and the light.
- I have the cutest doggie ever.
- Marriage is a continual learning experience, but I am so thankful for it.
see these are one line thoughts, good ones, but still not enough to do a whole post on it.
Today though I have something that is in my mind. Fear. Now I'm the same person that will tell you that Fear Not is commanded more in the bible than anything else...but so much easier said than done. And yet I know what I need is faith. the bible says: "If you are not firm in faith, you will not be firm at all"- Isaiah 7:9 These words are SO true, and I know that Faith is assurance of the things unseen. Why is it so difficult though? Why is it so hard to have faith in the place of fear? I think several factors play into it.
1- our world isn't generally positive, but rather teaches you really quickly not only do you not always get what you think you deserve but also shows you really quickly that sometimes life makes no sense.
2- the most optimistic person I know is my husband. It's one of the reasons I married him. He is the man that will pray for a miracle longer than anyone else. He's the guy who I know hands down will not give up. He has a faith in the face of fear that I admire, but also makes me feel ridiculous to fear at all and yet I fear things just the same. I pray to be more like Paul because I know his faith is the childlike faith that Christ said we need to have. I'm so blessed to have him. While I appreciate him, honestly, I don't know anyone else who is so optimistic. When we were getting married people were telling us that we were nuts and Paul wasn't phased, he just had faith. Paul helps me to stretch my faith and i'm so thankful for it, but I don't know anyone else like him. So many people share so much of their fear so easily and I see so much of it that maybe it makes it easier to fear than have faith.
3-being a woman. I honestly think women fear more than men. Maybe because God made us the weaker vessel. Maybe because of the estrogen. I don't know.
4- satan wants us to fear. he is continually feeding us lies telling us to fear, but in my life in the last 3 or so weeks I've seen this more and more.
So what am I afraid of?
- Wednesday I have a dermatology appointment. I'm scared of them finding something. I'm scared of surgery again. I'm scared of having more scars. I'm scared of missing school time and graduating late.
-I'm scared of being a bad wife.
-I'm scared of being a bad mom to my doggie gracie. (realized this past week we could be feeding her better food....fail on my part.)
-i'm scared of my final for internal medicine. it's very broad and I don't really like it in the first place and i'm afraid of failing
- i'm afraid of the unknown.
I don't have answers to fear except to circle Gods promises and have faith. But the jump between fear and faith is hard. I know the bridge between the two is Christ so i'm just trusting that He will show me the two. I know God has the plan, and maybe I'm not supposed to admit that I have fears but if I am being honest then I do have fears. I know God is bigger than my fears, but I have them nonetheless. So what choice do I have?
pray.
sometimes all you can do is read and pray and that sounds like nothing and yet it's everything.
so I'm praying that God will calm my fears and that He will help me to overcome all my fears. I'm praying that He will strengthen my faith and that He will show me where to go and what to do in all of these situations.Gotta put on the armor of God and just trust him to do the battle.
Friends I'm sure you have fears to but I pray that you will let Christ bridge you to having faith.
<3
How are you?
I start hundreds of posts in my head for this blog, and half the time I don't write. Why? partly because there are things that I only have a few word comments on..nothing post worthy. What do I mean?
- So many people believe in God but they miss that Jesus is the way the truth and the light.
- I have the cutest doggie ever.
- Marriage is a continual learning experience, but I am so thankful for it.
see these are one line thoughts, good ones, but still not enough to do a whole post on it.
Today though I have something that is in my mind. Fear. Now I'm the same person that will tell you that Fear Not is commanded more in the bible than anything else...but so much easier said than done. And yet I know what I need is faith. the bible says: "If you are not firm in faith, you will not be firm at all"- Isaiah 7:9 These words are SO true, and I know that Faith is assurance of the things unseen. Why is it so difficult though? Why is it so hard to have faith in the place of fear? I think several factors play into it.
1- our world isn't generally positive, but rather teaches you really quickly not only do you not always get what you think you deserve but also shows you really quickly that sometimes life makes no sense.
2- the most optimistic person I know is my husband. It's one of the reasons I married him. He is the man that will pray for a miracle longer than anyone else. He's the guy who I know hands down will not give up. He has a faith in the face of fear that I admire, but also makes me feel ridiculous to fear at all and yet I fear things just the same. I pray to be more like Paul because I know his faith is the childlike faith that Christ said we need to have. I'm so blessed to have him. While I appreciate him, honestly, I don't know anyone else who is so optimistic. When we were getting married people were telling us that we were nuts and Paul wasn't phased, he just had faith. Paul helps me to stretch my faith and i'm so thankful for it, but I don't know anyone else like him. So many people share so much of their fear so easily and I see so much of it that maybe it makes it easier to fear than have faith.
3-being a woman. I honestly think women fear more than men. Maybe because God made us the weaker vessel. Maybe because of the estrogen. I don't know.
4- satan wants us to fear. he is continually feeding us lies telling us to fear, but in my life in the last 3 or so weeks I've seen this more and more.
So what am I afraid of?
- Wednesday I have a dermatology appointment. I'm scared of them finding something. I'm scared of surgery again. I'm scared of having more scars. I'm scared of missing school time and graduating late.
-I'm scared of being a bad wife.
-I'm scared of being a bad mom to my doggie gracie. (realized this past week we could be feeding her better food....fail on my part.)
-i'm scared of my final for internal medicine. it's very broad and I don't really like it in the first place and i'm afraid of failing
- i'm afraid of the unknown.
I don't have answers to fear except to circle Gods promises and have faith. But the jump between fear and faith is hard. I know the bridge between the two is Christ so i'm just trusting that He will show me the two. I know God has the plan, and maybe I'm not supposed to admit that I have fears but if I am being honest then I do have fears. I know God is bigger than my fears, but I have them nonetheless. So what choice do I have?
pray.
sometimes all you can do is read and pray and that sounds like nothing and yet it's everything.
so I'm praying that God will calm my fears and that He will help me to overcome all my fears. I'm praying that He will strengthen my faith and that He will show me where to go and what to do in all of these situations.Gotta put on the armor of God and just trust him to do the battle.
Friends I'm sure you have fears to but I pray that you will let Christ bridge you to having faith.
<3
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